Why LYING on your Dating Profile is a NO NO

Lying on Your Profiles: Why dishonesty on your dating site profile is a definite NO.

Is it okay to lie about your age, weight or height on a dating profile? The answer is a definitive NO. Why is not OKAY to lie

The primary reason people lie about their age, weight or height on a profile?  It’s because they don’t want to admit who they are at this stage of life. They are not wanting to be realistic.

Another key reason people lie on profile  to try to meet people they want to meet, but who have

Mistakes and LYING on your online dating profile costS you:

  • missed opportunities to connect with suitable partners
  • wasted time chasing people who REJECT YOU or IGNORE you because of your profile mistakes
  • frustration and higher rejection levels
  • wasted money – wasted membership fees and stamps because you’re chasing people who aren’t genuinely compatible
  • trust and longevity – potentially meeting people who will NEVER again trust you after recognising you’ve been lying on your dating profile(s)

Don’t lose TIME and MONEY you’ll never get back by sending EMAILS that get ignored (aren’t responded to) and/or NEVER result in actual meetings – due to you saying the WRONG things, or saying the RIGHT things but in the wrong way – or using lazy photos.

Don’t let your profile sit amongst the other lemons – get advice and make your profile count.


“But I don’t want to meet someone my own age… I wan’t younger”! – The bane of online dating and disillusioned searching..

Yes, being older is a barrier to using a dating site. So is the mindset that you’re destined to fail.

Being negative is a profile-attraction killer. So is not making yourself stand out amongst the crowd, even if you feel you’re ‘average’ and seeking same.

It’s hard to show in a profile that you are NOT the same as most others your age.  Perhaps you have more charm, more fitness, more assets or more love to give. Perhaps you are a gem amongst gems. But you find that the ones YOU’d like to MEET, aren’t interested in someone in your age range. This is very common, and one of the reasons you should seek advice from a profile writing expert.

Advice from the Profile Writing Expert

OVERCOMING barriers to successful online dating: Style, Poise and Substance

The best way to overcome what you see are BARRIERS to meeting people you like is to:

  • Create an alluring profile
  • Include a variety of RECENT photos, several taken professionally
  • Write a creatively original “opening” spiel and email template
  • Use honesty with charm
  • Make sure you dress the part – don’t dress like a fuddy duddy or librarian matron if you want to attract someone with style, poise and substance

Overcoming AGE range limitations, HEIGHT criteria and WEIGHT or FITNESS barriers

What’s better than being dishonest about your age on a profile, or lying about your fitness levels and body weight?

  • It’s BETTER to have an HONEST profile and to initiate first contact with a prospect who’s criteria excludes you
  • Then to be SO CHARMING and clever that they can’t resist having a coffee
  • Then WOW them in person if you can

Better yet, it’s best to remain REALISTIC about other people’s parameters or desired criteria for a partner search

  • Don’t search for people whose criteria already excludes or rejects your honest descriptions
  • Instead, aim to search for people who WILL NOT pre-exclude you based on your current REAL biographical age, your height, weight, hairline and/or child-at-home-status.

What are the most COMMON mistakes people make on online dating site profiles?

Most Common Mistakes made on Online Dating Profiles on Tinder, Match, Eharmony, Bumble, RSVP, Plenty Of Fish and more.

The most COMMON mistakes made on Dating Profiles include:

  • not having good photos / using unflattering photos
  • only having one photo or not including a full body shot that is flattering
  • not having recent photos
  • lying about their age
  • not saying enough
  • being un-creative or too brief in their headlines, descriptions and usernames
  • being arrogant-sounding or too self-deprecating (there’s a balance!)
  • being rude or mentioning sex or intimacy (or perceived sexual skills in this department) in their dating profiles (usually a sign they are only interested in sex AND/OR very insecure)
  • showing a topless photo (typically men) or a photo of themselves at the gym (gym narcissism is a genuine turn off )
  • showing only high-athlete photos of running or cycling, or having travel photos, and zero real-life scenes

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What makes for a great dating profile? Getting good advice is imperative for over 50s and over 60s.

  • It’s not easy to know how to present yourself in a great light, and even if you ARE a great writer
  • And let’s face it, most people AREN’T good at writing AND not accustomed to describing themselves attractively!
  • So having professional coaching and profile writing HELP – including photo reviews – can go a LONG WAY in improving your positive response rates

So get help before you become frustrated, despondent and even lonelier than when you started.

Plus read ALL of my helpful online dating for over 50s and over 60s tips blogs or make an enquiry for a profile review or photography assistance.


DATING PROFILE TIPS services and dating site reviews – profile success in waiting.

We can help in many ways – either by:

  • our online resources
  • digital downloads dating tips for online dating apps
  • reviews of top 10 dating sites for women and men over 50 or over 60
  • customised profile reviews
  • even personalised dating coaching in person or over the internet.


Is internet dating a waste of time? DOWN-THE-TOILET dating – the waste of precious paper (Digital and otherwise)?
  • If you’re failing, you’re also likely not up to date in wardrobe choices or hair styles and/or sexy-balding-looks
  • you’re simply NOT using the sites effectively or you have a poorly constructed profile and problematic PHOTO choices

Find out how to increase your dating profile views and YES response rates,

  • BEFORE you spend a lot of time, funds and effort on a poorly-working dating profile OR
  • Waste time trying to attract the wrong types of people in the worst possible way imaginable
  • Get the professional advice you need form our dating coaches and counsellors who are IN THE SAME AGE BRACKETS as you are, and who know the game of online love hunting

Is it gamey? Yes and No. It’s competitive, it’s brutal and it’s win or lose or somewhere in between.  But as with other endeavours in life, where thousands of other people are trying to gain the attention of the VERY SAME PEOPLE you would LOVE to meet, you need to learn how to play by RULES and TIPS for better success.

Online Dating over the internet can be extremely frustrating.  A number of people fail.

But it can also be very fruitful when you learn WHAT works.

And knowing WHAT doesn’t work helps a lot.

Otherwise, you will forever lose the interest of people you want to meet or get to know.

Originally published January 27, 2019.

Page last updated on January 26, 2019.

How Dating Sites Work – Free vs Paid for Memberships on Online Dating Sites

New or curious about online dating sites and how they work?

How most dating sites wor:k and profile set up information (general) – setting up a profile and using free vs paid online dating subscriptions.

Every dating site or app is different. Yet there are MANY similarities amongst dating sites that will help you if you’re new or curious about online dating.  The first thing to know is that an online dating site uses a DATABASE type of platform and algorithm, meaning a profile is a set of data that is used to match with other sets of data (other member profiles) for interests, appearance and lifestyle factors.

Dating site matching is scientifically driven in the sense it’s data and database driven. But most dating website algorithms and matching functions are far from perfect – and human behaviour in terms of online dating is far from rational or predictable.  Plus, if a site doesn’t have adequate members meeting your matching criteria, the algorithm may tell you “no matching criteria” or it might just lower the bar.

Free vs Paid for Dating Sites Subscriptions and Features

  • Most dating sites or dating apps offer FREE log-ins and FREE profiles.
  • Profiles WILL ask your age, and often other factors such as height, weight, hair colour/style, body shape or size, and a set number of lifestyle activities such as whether or not you smoke, drink, watch too much television or have fantasies about playing Russian Roulette..
  • Most DEMAND a photo and a legitimately-working email for validation and profile-building.
  • Photo often need to meets certain criteria (e.g., they MUST show your face/eyes, not be overly grainy or low in resolution, not have others or children in them and so on).
  • Validation of an email address is also required before being able to USE the profile (search your spam folders if needed).
  • A set list of criteria also needs to be filled in, such as whether or not you’d be happy dating someone who still wants children (or not) and whether or not you’ve finished a certain degree of schooling; what your religion and cultural preferences are (if any), and income ranges of people you’d like to date.

At which point, the person can SEARCH for matches – but not necessarily contact them for free.

Read the blog AGE FABRICATION – how many people lie about their age on dating profiles?

Lifehacker reviewed TINDER GOLD features and benefits – click here to see what they had to say.

  • Some sites SAY they’re free to use – and they are – but only to set up a profile not to actually contact or respond to others’ expressions of interest.
  • Remember – if it’s your first time setting up a profile, be sure you tick the box for SMS alerts (YES or NO) or EMAIL alerts (YES or NO) as otherwise you may have to be IN the app or ON the dating site to see any activity; that noted, if you’re using a work email, you might not want your daily matches showing up at your office desk computer or office phone.
  • Some APPS require PHONE ONLY use; others can be accessed through an APP on your phone, though an INTERNET BROWSER on your phone (Mozilla, Firefox, Chrome and similar – although some are glitchy with dating site formats) – OR on your COMPUTER/PC or TABLET.
  • Expect functionality and appearance of the site and menus to change depending on which DEVICE you’re using – not all devices or browsers work compatibly with dating software (and vice versus).

But added features – such as being able to make contact with other users or having filtering systems to enable profile weeding, cost extra.

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Average Registration Times for Top Dating Sites – Tinder, Match, Elite Singles, EHarmony, Bumble

  • Depending on the site, registration can take from a few minutes (allow at least 20 minutes to 30 minutes for most sites) to several hours spent filling in exhausting forms you’ll never know will come in useful (or not).
  • EHarmony is exhaustive and takes a very long time to fill in but says the algorithm matching is “worth it”.
  • Some sites let you skip the details but the more info you DO put in, the more closely the MATCH might become. Theoretically speaking, anyway.
  • Everyone questions algorithms at some stage, but according to an insider at Fairfax (who owns the dating website, RSVP), what people SAY they want – and what they CLICK on – are not as aligned as one might think.

Are the FREE dating sites worth it? Such as PLENTYOFFISH (POF)?
  • Many people enter the foray of online dating on a free site, such as the popular PlentyOfFish or Zoosk.
  • The more FREE users a site has, the more PROFILE WEEDING you’re going to need to do (and the more attractive and time-saving the PREMIUM feature memberships become).
  • But most online dating sites have FEE FOR CONTACT or a FEE FOR MEMBERSHIP.

Find out Dating Statistics for Tinder and other facts about online dating industry.

Recommended reading:

Online Dating Statistics and Number of Tinder Users

How many single people are using online dating?


How Many People Lie About Their Age on Dating Profiles?

Originally published on September 27 2019 by DoctorMyWeb.

Page last updated on January 20, 2020.

Have attitudes changed towards online dating and Tinder?

Have our attitudes changed towards online dating and using Tinder, even for over 50s and over 65s?

The answer is that the last 10 years saw major changes. But probably even more so in the last 3 to 5  years, when online dating went from being slightly stigmatised to a must-do endeavour for people seeking a new partner, lover or friend. In other words, in the last 3 years or so, online dating for ALL agees – went all-out mainstream.

They call it critical mass – it simply means when behaviours reach a level that social norms become altered for years or decades to come. And online dating has become widely accepted, and very minimally stigmatised, in the last few years.

In fact, if you’re single, over 50 or 65 and dating — but you’ve never been on an online dating site yourself — chances are you’re a bit of a dinosaur in terms of your personal views about online dating.

That’s because there’s no other option today that can bring you into contact with so many people of like minds and similar interests (e.g., potential partners) as online dating sites for over 50s and over 65s.

Critical Mass and Online Dating Site Statistics –

You can see the Tinder use trends (Tinder user statistics and search trends) in the graph below.

Source: Google Trends


Attitudes about dating apps and dating online -PEW Research Survey data.

5 facts about online dating

So as mentioned in my detailed description of dating advice for over 50s/over 60s  online dating trends and profile creation tips and templates, ,

More on dating acceptance and statistics.

Online Dating Statistics and Number of Tinder Users

How Dating Sites Work – Free vs Paid for Memberships on Online Dating Sites

How Many People Lie About Their Age on Dating Profiles?

Dating site reviews from consumers – coming soon!

Originally published on September 5, 2018.

Page last updated on January 27, 2020.

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